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Rollercoaster World

I sit on the floor. And I cry. My heart aches. For you, for me, for us. I feel frustration flow through every vein in my body. Although those same veins flow with a love so strong, it keeps me from killing you. Me. Us. How sad that our time apart is the only thingContinue reading “Rollercoaster World”

So, who’s the expert here?

What makes an expert? I suppose we’re always led to believe that the people with the most expertise are the ones who are the most learned about a certain thing; those with the highest qualifications. Years of study and accumulated knowledge must mean they know everything there is to know about their field, right? Well,Continue reading “So, who’s the expert here?”

‘You’re so f****** unreasonable!’

Autism can be all consuming and selfish. There, I said it! It is. The word Autism actually comes from the Greek word “autos,” meaning ‘self’. The thesaurus will tell you that the word “describes conditions in which a person is isolated from social interaction. One symptom common to all types of autism is an inabilityContinue reading “‘You’re so f****** unreasonable!’”

Sibling sacrifice …

We’ve been having a bit of a tricky time with Elke lately. She’s about to hit her teens with force and after a year of limited social access, is desperate for human interaction. Anyone else with a child in their early teens or ‘preens’ (pre-teens) will know how big an impact the pandemic has hadContinue reading “Sibling sacrifice …”

Expectation vs Reality …

So, it’s December. And we all know what that means. It’s the build up to the most exciting time of the year! Right? I’ve always loved Christmas – like, I’m a seriously MASSIVE fan. My childhood Christmases were magical. Full of family traditions and excitement. I was very lucky. My Granny was the best atContinue reading “Expectation vs Reality …”

Time Out

We all need a little time out from time to time, right? We become overwhelmed with life and sometimes there is no time or head space to think about our own thoughts and feelings or to prioritise them. I was talking to my colleagues only this week about a term they had come across viaContinue reading “Time Out”

Nothing Compares 2 U …

I want to talk about a touchy subject but one that seems to keep cropping up in all sorts of varied contexts lately; comparison. We’ve been brought up in a society that seems to constantly compete and compare. Firstly, I believe our education system has a lot to answer for with it’s unrivalled obsession withContinue reading “Nothing Compares 2 U …”

Lockdown – the reality

Wow. I can’t believe it has been almost 5 months since I last wrote a post! There I was in March, all focused and positive, in full planning and control-freak mode, ready to take on my new job as full time teacher to my two girls, whilst trying to keep my own business afloat duringContinue reading “Lockdown – the reality”

At first I was afraid ….

Hello everyone. Well, isn’t time a funny thing? I had absolutely no inkling when i started this blog two weeks ago that so much would change in such a short space of time. To be honest, if you’d have told me, I wouldn’t have believed you! WTF?!? I hadn’t planned for my blog to goContinue reading “At first I was afraid ….”

Getting started …

So, I first started writing a blog about six years ago, when my younger daughter Martha, was three. I wanted to document our journey towards getting a diagnosis of Autism for her and how we went about putting in place all the support she would need in her life. I suppose I wanted to helpContinue reading “Getting started …”